Yeah, if you need relationship advice, don't ask me for it.
I'm still trying to figure out how to communicate effectively and healthy with a romantic partner. Sometimes my tone isn't right... And rather than a normal conversation, a full on battle ensues. My biggest thing is its not what you say its how you say it. And I gotta say things with a calmer, not negative tone. I've heard this thing about making "I" statements instead of "You" statements. Because then you're actually sharing how you feel rather than saying a "you" statement which puts the other person immediately on the defensive. For example, "you always do this, you do that." Also, I gotta not ask "why" so much. "Why do you..." automatically sounds judgmental. So maybe saying something else. Idk. Like I said, I aint got the answers. I just know I got a lot of work to do myself, therefore, dont ask me for advice in that area. I have no ideaaaa.
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